5 lies

oh hey! just over here with a semi super serious post for the week.

I haven't done that in a while and this subject is so near and dear to my heart!

I have beyond struggled with ALL of this & a sweet friend of mine posted this article yesterday on facebook & it really hit home. I added some random thoughts too. bc if I know I struggled with this & my close friends have too, it is something that should be discussed. we spend way too much of our time hiding our flaws instead of ripping them open and fixing them. 

read it. live it. stick it to the man! 

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5 Lies Twentysomethings Need to Stop Believing:

September 3, 2013

Paul Angone is the author of 101 Secrets for your Twenties.

Sarah (Every. Single. One. Of. Us.) had been told all her life she could do anything she wanted, that success was right around the corner. But now, stuck in a menial job at 25, with no big career in sight, she—like many twentysomethings—was feeling the pangs of disillusionment.
This sense of disillusionment often stems from the lies we’ve been told and have told ourselves. We’ve been lied to, and these lies are holding us back.

You are not alone in your struggle, questions, wondering what’s next?, now what? or do I have what it takes?

Too many twentysomethings are driving through the twists and turns of their twenties with windshields covered in mud, lies and half-truths. And then we wonder why so many of us have crashed?

We need to hose these lies off right now or spend our twenties stuck on the side of the road.

1. I’m the Only One Struggling

I would love to lock this lie away in a Serbian prison and give the key to a pack of Arctic wolves to defend. You are not alone in your struggle, questions, wondering what’s next?, now what? or do I have what it takes?

Our twenties are tough. That’s the truth. Too many twentysomethings are struggling through a quarter life crisis all alone. (amen, I totally thought I was the ONLY one & sure enough after talking to friends, I am not! we ALL feel this way at some point)

We all need help. We all need support. We all need nudges, prompts, advice and encouragement. 

No one has it all figured out. The twentysomethings who think they do are in for the biggest shock of all. (ahem... that would be ME! def got a rude awakening) 

2. I Should Be Successful by Now! Like Right Now!

(this one was definitely my weakness. I for sure thought after graduating college I would instantly be a "grown up" with everything in place. ha.)

 I fully expected to walk straight into a crazy-successful twentysomething life with accolades, salaries, bonuses, a big-old-fat-book-deal, and a plethora of people who wanted to learn my secrets to success, all by 23 years old. Maybe 25 if I really hit some serious setbacks.

I didn't realize that success takes time—loads of time.
Success is not an Egg McMuffin, delivered to us for a $3, three minute investment.
No, success is the Sistine Chapel—it takes years, pain, frustration, thousands of brushes, colors and crumpled up sketches before you have your masterpiece.
Countless famed figures we idolize failed drastically in their twenties. Even Jesus, who never failed at anything, didn't begin his active, recorded ministry until he was in his thirties.

Success is not a sprint, it’s an Ironman marathon, and our twenties aren't really about running the actual race. No, our twenties are simply about building our endurance so that we can run the race in the future.

If you take one step towards your dream today, you are a success. Success happens in the details. (looooove this!) 

3. Life is Not Turning Out Like it Was Supposed To

(can we ALL just take a moment to laugh at ourselves and how prideful/silly/stupid we are for "planning" our lives out in such detail. ridiculous I tell ya!)

Well, kind of. Yes, life is not turning out like it was supposed to, but what the heck is supposed to? There is no supposed to. Supposed to is a lie. Supposed to is built on the perception of someone else’s perceived success.

Live your life right now exactly as it is and do your best to keep moving forward into where you want to go. That’s what you’re supposed to do.  (!!!!) 

4. I Don’t Have What it Takes

I 100 percent guarantee you have what it takes. I triple-stamp a double-stamp, 100 percent money-back guarantee you have what it takes. It’s just going to take some time to figure out what exactly “it” is.

Our twenties are a process, not a surprise party. You don’t just walk into the door and all of the sudden your calling jumps out from behind the couch. God has put all of us on a journey and as much as we might want to dash to the finish line, we're going to have to take our time to let Him teach us what exactly that finish line is. (I have always wanted God to just send me a GIANT sign that told me 1. what my calling is 2. what my career and relationships should look like 3. what I should be doing for him. I thought if I could just have that, I would be set! but sadly life isn't handed to us just that easily. work work work.) 

You are extremely talented at something. We just need to start pulling off the layers to get a glimpse of what that something is.

5. I am a Failure

(I literally think this 7 times a week.) 

The only failure of our twenties would be if we never had any.
The only failure of our twenties is if we fail and then call ourselves failures. (oooops) 

Our twenties are going to be riddled with failure. Anyone that tells you otherwise is a liar. But you don't have to define yourself by your failures.

Failure is not a period, it’s a comma. And only if you stop trying will you really fail.
There’s only one way to be successful in our twenties—fail, tweak, then try again. 

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So here is to not being perfect, to "failing" miserably and trying again, to our successes and to the daily grind of "finding ourselves" and our calling. I hope you ALL realized we ALL have these silly expectations and goals are okay, but so is it all not working out how we thought.